Inside Out- Forgiving a Father's Murderer

09.23.15 | Martha Manikas-Foster

We struggle to forgive.


Laurie Coombs was in college when her father was murdered. A decade later, she forgave the man who shot him.

This is not a story of effortless forgiveness. Coombs didn’t follow a feeling. She wrestled with obedience. It cost Jesus His life to offer us forgiveness, and He’s pretty clear that we turn around and offer the same to others.

“So here God is, telling me to forgive, telling me to love my enemy,” Coombs says in our recorded interview. “And I cried out to Him: I said, ‘God, how am I to do that, I mean, how am I to do that?’”

And that’s where forgiveness began.


“I believe that forgiveness starts the moment that we say, ‘Okay, God, I don’t know how to do this, but you do. And this is what you call me to do,’” she says. “He will enable us to do what He calls us to do.”

In her new book “Letters from My Father’s Murderer,” Coombs recounts the story of her efforts to forgive her father’s murderer, and the correspondence that resulted.

“God was calling me to give exactly what I had received from Him,” she says. “God gives us grace and love and mercy and forgiveness, and what He calls us to do is to give exactly what we have been given.”

Click on the LISTEN or DOWNLOAD icon above and sit back to listen to our 27-minute conversation about forgiveness: the cost of withholding it, the impossibility of accomplishing it alone, and the freedom that comes by extending it.

“We do truly become free. We are free to no longer carry that burden, to give that burden to God and to allow Him to be the rightful judge.”

Connect with Laurie through her blog.

Learn more about her book Letters from My Father’s Murderer.


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