10.23.09 | | Comments
As part of the staff here at Family Life, one of the ministries that I have the privilege of overseeing is the SALSA Sinlges Ministry. Which is really neat because it was at my first SALSA Conference that I came to know Jesus personally. Now, almost ten years later, I am blessed in my singleness. That wasn't the case when I first became single after 21 years of marriage. Being single again was hard. It hurled me into a state of discontentment. I was angry, broken, lonely and hurt.
Last week Focus on the Family had two guest speakers on their show, Candice Watters and Carolyn McCaulley. The topic was "Singleness: Living with Hope Deferred." You can listen to the podcast by going to Focus on the Family's Website. Both speakers were great but Carolyn's message is what I want to talk about in this blog.
She talks about the gift of singleness. This is the same gift that Paul talks about in 1 Cor. 7. I was so intrigued by her message that I picked up her book, "Did I Kiss Marriage Goodbye?"
Here are some insights from the second chapter of her book:
"If we're single, we have the gracious gift of singleness. How we may feel about it - 'Do I like being single? Do I desire marriage?' - is not part of the equation. The emphasis here is on a gracious God who gives good gifts and ultimately on His purpose for giving them."
"Ultimately we are single because that's God's will for us right now. That's it. It's not because we are too old, too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short, too quiet, too loud, too smart, too simple, too demanding or too anything else. Though perhaps these things seem like valid reasons, they don't trump God's will."
"The good news is that the singleness is not about you. You have a 'gracious endowment' that is for the good of those around you! (So the next time someone asks you why you're still single, you can reply with a straight face, "It's for your good!')."
How many of us singles are looking for the gift receipt so that we can return this gift for another? I sure was!
So let me ask you singles out there......
Do you see your singleness as a gift? And if so, how did you get there?
Are you still thinking that your singleness is because you're too old, fat, short, whatever? Or are you trusting in God's trump card?
And finally, is your singleness still all about YOU or are you using your gift to bless the body of Christ. If you are, share with us how you're doing that.
I'd love to hear from you!