Inside Out 247: Friends Who Fall Away

05.30.12 | Martha Manikas-Foster

Who doesn’t ache for a friend who once loved Jesus but has now walked away from God? 

If God’s good news is central to your life—if you look to Jesus as the answer to grief and sorrow and as the source of life—then a friend’s rejection of God is painful news. Today’s guest, Ashley Moore, knows this. One of her blog posts on the website is titled: “Saving Thomas: What happened when I tried to drag a friend back to Jesus.”

For Ashley, the friend that has pulled away from God was like a brother to her in high school. For you, the person who has rejected God might be an adult child or a best friend, a parent or a spouse. Chances are your first reaction has been to try to fix that person’s faith, to work hard to bring him or her back. You want—I want—restoration. And we want it right away.

But it’s complicated.

“That person has walked away from their faith for a reason, and often that reason has been people-related, or being hurt by the church or whatever it is,” Ashley says in our interview. “A lot of times it’s not just, you know, ‘I took a class and they talked about evolution, and I lost my faith.’ A lot of times it’s, ‘The church hurt me and I don’t believe anymore.’ And so, because those people are so often coming from a place of hurt, there just needs to be more care.”

A key lesson for Ashley has been to find her place in the story of her friend’s faith. “I think the most important thing to realize is that, although how you witness to that person is something you will be held accountable for, you are not primarily responsible for that person’s salvation and you can’t control it.”

Join us (by clicking on an icon above) for a conversation with Ashley Moore about our friends who have walked away from the Christian faith. Then let us know what you think by typing a comment or two below.

Click here to read “Saving Thomas: What happened when I tried to drag a friend back to Jesus”:

Click here to read more about Ashley Moore, the editorial coordinator for three Christianity Today websites: Kyria, Gifted for Leadership, and



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