Inside Out 319: Domestic Violence

10.22.14 | Martha Manikas-Foster

“I am sorry for what you’re experiencing and have been experiencing,” Inside Out guest Justin Holcomb says to victims of domestic violence. “You thought you were being loved well by someone and you decided to be in a relationship with them, and I am sorry that they did a ‘bait and switch’ and that they are harming you. Someone that close should be laying down and sacrificing for love for you, not sacrificing you for whatever they want.”

You are a click away from listening to an important conversation, whether you are being hurt by abuse or you want to help a friend who is being abused. One in four adult women and one in seven adult men in America will be on the receiving end of domestic violence in their lifetimes. With those statistics, it makes sense that almost 75 percent of Americans say they know someone who is or has been abused by an intimate partner.

So what I’m saying is that if you think you don’t need this information now, you will.

My guest for this conversation, Justin Holcomb--along with his wife Lindsey--is the author of the new book Is It My Fault?: Hope and Healing for Those Suffering Domestic Violence, a book that offers accessible, Gospel-based help, hope, and healing. The couple has also written the book Rid of My Disgrace: Hope and Healing for Victims of Sexual Assault.

If you are being hurt, please understand that you did not bring this on yourself. Nothing you have done means that you deserve this. And as hard as it seems to believe, hope and healing are possible--and Jesus Christ offers both. “You’re not outside the scope of God,” Justin says. “Karma’s not true. God loves you. He loves you so much, and it was SO costly. It cost His Son so the broken relationship between you and Him could be mended.”

* If you are being hurt, The National Domestic Violence Hotline is an important resource. Calling the hotline can provide help no matter where you live in the U.S.: 800-799-SAFE (-7233) or (Please understand that if you use your computer to access the hotline, is it possible that your abuser can trace your contact with the hotline. It may be safest to make a phone call.)

* Click on the LISTEN or DOWNLOAD icon above to hear the interview with Justin Holcomb. And if you live in a dangerous situation, please be careful that that your abuser does not know that you are listening.

* Access step-by-step instructions to create your own Safety Plan here.

Justin and Lindsey Holcomb are making this available to help you think through what to do if you decide to leave or if you and your children face an emergency.

* Learn more about Justin and Lindsey’s book “Is It My Fault?: Hope and Healing for Those Suffering Domestic Violence.”

* Get in touch with biblically trained counselors by phoning Family Life at 607-776-4151 and asking for the Biblical Counseling Department.


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on 10.22.14 Steve commented

Thanks for publishing this so I could share it with friends.



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